Male prison dating sites
Hybristophilia is described as a condition whereby women are sexually aroused by and responsive to the men who commit heinous crimes.
Often referred to as the ‘Bonnie & Clyde Syndrome.’ In this instance the Passive Hybristophile will often contact someone in prison - someone that they only know by reputation in the media.
Their motivation is born from compassion, low self-esteem or ill-advised intentions.
However there are others who are attracted to men who commit extreme acts of violence, such as rape or murder.
And I'll go on being a lost soul."On the other side of the pond, psychopathic mass murderer Charles Manson recently called off the wedding to his pen pal, Afton-Elaine Burton after discovering that she was secretly ordering a glass coffin for her intended, with a view to charging spectators after his death.
Cavendish believes it to be a highly complex issue and agrees that major factors to consider are dependency and control; “Dependence works both ways - financial for many prisoners, particularly those who don't have family ties, as well as emotional.”With regards to the type of women who write to prisoners; “I'll be honest and say that a fair few of the female correspondents are lonely women who often have body-image concerns (many of those whose photos I've seen tend to be overweight.) They feel perhaps that a prisoner is likely to be less judgmental and more appreciative of any support - emotional and/or financial.”For these women, connecting with a man who is locked up for the majority of the day with little else to occupy his time, you’d be forgiven for assuming that the inmate has no choice but to remain faithful.
Fatema Saira Rehman, the woman who wrote to and later married notorious lifer Charles Bronson, once said of her correspondence; “I never expected anything.
As observed by Clinical Psychologist Dr Stuart Fischoff; “The love object is almost irrelevant at this point.When looking for a partner, the majority of women cite good sense of humour as an essential requirement.And in the shark infested world of online dating, we assume their only experience of porridge to be the kind found on the breakfast table.However as Cavendish observes, prisoners can benefit fiscally from these courtships; “I’ve known male inmates who have several pen pals, and they live a very comfortable life inside on the regular postal orders or cheques that get sent in.I’ve met straight young prisoners who are keen to find male ‘sugar daddies’ willing to fund their tobacco or drug habits whilst inside.”Yet it would be wrong to claim that all inmates exploit the situation and all pen pals on the outside are lonely and looking for love.
Many women (and men) choose to reach out simply to provide friendship and compassion to those behind bars.